Hello again
I hope you had fun feeling your goods. It was odd at first for me. Forbidden thing girls don’t do and all that jazz. I should not only be allowed but feel comfortable feeling my own body. This body and I are going to spend a lot of time together and knowing how to make me feel good feels necessary. There are 80 year olds who have never looked at or touched their vaginas. I knew a woman who would wash her lady bits last and never use the same cloth twice because she felt it was dirty. And not as in unclean but a bad place. You can use your wash cloth however many times you want but thinking that a part of your body is evil or disgraceful needs to stop. Our clits or as I call her, my bean, is made to feel good. That bit has no other purpose.
Did you know when a man and woman cum at the same time the female orgasm opens up the vagina to receive sperm. That’s what I read somewhere, no I’m not fact checking, and to me it feels like a biological imperative for women to be pleased.
Back to the bean and pleasuring yourself. As women we tend to over think and over analyze which is not great groundwork for getting off.
So to nix those thoughtss here are a few things I can tell you and you may need to add to your list, please share any and all of your discouraging thoughts so we can get rid of them and get down to business.
Your vagina/vulva/private, etc. is a unique flower, butterfly, layering of roast beef, etc. and will not look like any one else’s. Yours is beautiful and there is everything right with it.
You are a sexual being. You were made that way and you do not have to feel any shame in what feels good to you.
No ideas are off the table (or bed if you prefer) unless it’s going to hurt or cause harm to you or others. Want anal? Get you some, double penetration (one of my faves with my toys) do it. Want to be tied up or spanked do it. You are as unique as your beautiful slit and should do what feels good to you.
Now that we are grounded, relaxed, being nice to ourselves we can finally work on getting into it.
If you have never felt pleasure it may take a minute to find your rhythm and you have the rest of your life to perfect. I can only share how I started and am happy to have conversations around your experiences if you want.
I think i started in the bath. So cliche, I know. Guess I had more time splashing around and wanted to inspect my fruit with my fingers.
Touching, pulling, rubbing my clit then rubbing down into my canal (anyone else read canal as c-anal? Yup I’m real mature) and then back again. Fingers around and down until I started to feel something building, something better. If I stayed to long anywhere it would become too much and I wouldn’t climax. It feels like it took forever to find my rhythm. I played on my bed, in the shower, in the car, and got used to touching myself and the zing of pleasure I was creating.
This is all fun but getting to level 1 is the goal. I wanted my very own orgasm. I realized if I can’t figure out what works for me how am I going to direct someone else? Rubbing and dipping was my thing and when it felt too good I’d close my eyes, ground myself, and breathe through it until I finally had my first one. Once I felt that you would’ve thought I was a teenage boy. I couldn’t stop. Quick little one before work, get a tingle in the car, or a rub down at the end of my shower.
Then I wanted a toy. There was no Amazon at the time so I had to get the nerve to go to a shop with no clue what to buy and too embarrassed to ask anyone. I bought a pink one that was the size of an above average dick, veins included, and batteries to power it.
It had one setting. Thank God. I don’t think I could’ve done with more at the moment. I’ll find a picture somewhere, it was a great starter vibrator and since I feel more pleasure at the vaginal opening and my clit it did just fine. You may discover a sweet spot a bit farther in and finding a tool to get there will be important. Get home, all ashamed, close my door, put batteries in, turn on music, walk around, take my pants off, try to find a comfortable spot, and finally turn it on. I did my rub routine to start and then added the vibrator in the same pattern that I liked. I had to pull it away several times to make sure I could get through the build up to the orgasm. It felt like a lot of work but was probably 10 minutes to find the right pressure and pattern and added my other hand to squeeze the bean and really get to pumping. The buildup is almost as good as the finale. It took a few sessions and a lot of trial and error before getting past old level one and up to 2 with my new friend. And ladies we had moisture. Good old fashioned lady cum. Not a lot but damn did it feel good and the release was amazing.
I’m going to leave all of you fine lady cummers at this point. Go for a simple toy, feel yourself, make yourself feel good. Everyone takes a different approach and amount of time. You may just be getting to know yourself and you are going to have to give yourself some time to get used to feeling good. Now that I told you I’m feeling a good session coming on.
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