Did you know that the better your body looks the more you criticize yourself? Have you heard that we are all our own worst critics? I have recently come across old pictures of myself from the 90s. I was tall pretty and thin. I thought I was fat and ugly. I am now 46 and weight 80lbs more and have a few extra lines and I am a bigger fan of my body now. and feel much more empowered to do what I want and what feels right.
How do we teach young people to accept their bodies? I think about the amount of media I was exposed to compared to these days and it really scares me. I also feel that as adults we have a responsibility to help with body positivity.
As an adult I have learned to look in the mirror at my body as a whole. I have learned to look at my different parts specifically and admire them. I've looked everywhere and appreciate all of my imperfect parts. How do I help the young learn to do this in a non-sexual way? How do we teach others to stay unbiased to their bodies and just appreciate the life and skin and all of their amazingness? Life is so short and the sooner we learn to love ourselves the belter our lives are.
I land on this thinking about my own body and how much I have gotten to know it over the last few years. I have never touched myself as much as I do now. I have never loved myself the way I do now. I have never orgasmed the way i do now. I have never felt so empowered.
Is this a lesson of aging or being alone? Or does it matter as long as the conclusion is made?
On the other hand I don't think I have seen so much confidence in young women as I do now. They wear what they want, say what they want, and don't put up with anyone's shit.
Here's the thing empowering women means empowering girls. Boys start masturbating at a pretty young age, but girls think it's gross and don't want to talk about it. Most girls have a story on how they lost their virginity, and it was pressure from a boyfriend, and they didn't want to lose him.
What if we help change the narrative and tell girls their bodies are beautiful and special, and they can do to it what they want? What will make them feel good? Are girls suppressing their nature due to societal expectations? If they knew others were touching themselves would they give it a shot? if they found their own big O would they feel more empowered to make choices around who to have sex with? Is this a better solution than abstinence or even safe sex? Can we possibly teach girls to love themselves and their bodies and help them feel good while also empowering them to make better decisions sexually?
These are wandering thoughts which I bring to you to ponder. I would love your feedback. I feel like there is a power issue around sex especially as teens that can be leveled out. There are conversations that could be had but maybe not. Maybe it's in a female's nature? I would love to hear your feedback. Please comment and let me know what you think. If you want the conversation to be private join the Lady Cum Clique and have private conversations that are among a select group that is monitored.
Don't forget to join the mailing list at the bottom of the page and browse the merchandise. Let me know other things you want written on the gear and I'll update the items. I want this to be a place where we can freely touch ourselves and leave the shame behind. I want us to be able to tell our partners what we like and don't like and what we fantasize about. And that all partners are accepted whether it's a person you enjoy being around and having sex with, to a long term relationship and all the things before, after and in between. Being authentically you is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Other people’s opinions are not your business but your opinion of you is.
xoxo until next time Mur Eva
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